Hi,
No, definitely don't reverse the battery feed / ign light connections! The fact that it is a positive earth model of dynator means that there should be no changes to be made in this respect.
If the relay isn't clicking, that's probably where the issue is. The relay should come with two of the connections jumpered for the earth connection, check that these are correct. Did the relay come with the dynator or have you bought one yourself?
I also connected the relay between the warning light and the fuse - so basically when the key is turned, 12v leaves the ign switch via the white wire, passes through the fuse and activates the relay and the warning light glows. As long as the light is on, when you start the car the dynator will be 'excited' and charging should occur, extinguishing the warning light. The other wire from the light goes back to the rb340 w/l terminal and then to the dynamo. With the dynator, if there is an internal regulator, then the w/l wire is connected to either a dummy regulator or a reconfigured rb340 - basically 'direct' from the w/l terminal on the dynator to the w/l.
I don't want to worry you unduly, but with my dynator the instructions were explicit in that if the relay wasn't wired correctly, then turning on the ignition "would result in instant failure of the dynator". And guess what......
Hence me getting hold of the checklist once my repaired one arrived!